parenting

My Two Fathers Are Better Than One

I had two Fathers.

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                No, this was not a situation where both of my fathers were lovers nor was I an adopted child to two men who wanted one of their own. One father was the one who taught me how to bait my own fishing pole, drive a manual-shift car, fire a shotgun into an open country field and hold my own when it came to self-defense. My other father had shed the importance of being sure I selected the right man to be in a relationship with. The right man to father my future children with and most importantly, how not to settle for one who did not display the actions of a real man, even though he was born with a penis and testicles between his legs. To a woman continuing to blossom and grow into her own, both fathers instilled great gems that I would be able to carry on throughout the rest of my life. They were my versions of true love!
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As a Mom…

This is going to step on a lot of toes first and foremost but you know my heart, if you know me as an individual..so if you take offense to anything that I am about to say, it was not intentional but it needs to be said.

I went to Walmart yesterday in which I had a small talk with the sales rep there about video games. We got into a discussion about us both raising our sons by ourselves and the fear with living here in GA (ATL), just how open the homosexuality is down here. She was informing me about how she took her son to the mall (North Pointe) and there were a few men walking about in stilettos, makeup glam to the T and skirts. Her son pointed them out as “Boy Girls,” and told her (he’s 7) that he likes girls and that what he saw wasn’t right.

Now, I do not bash anyone nor their sexual preference because what works for you, works for you and that’s your prerogative. I love all of my homosexual and bi-sexual friends all the same as I do my heterosexual friends. Where I do tense up and become a little more “Mama’Bearish” is when I am with my son. The lifestyle down in the A scared the shit out of me, I will admit, when I contemplated on moving down knowing I would be raising my son with no male figure in the household.

This type of environment is new to him, yet he has been around a lot of male figures when we lived in Connecticut, so I am confident in both life and God himself. As a mom raising a young boy into a young man, it is very vital that we keep positive male role models in their lives. That was another thing we spoke on. Dudes who knowingly gets involved with a woman who has a child or children and then does not want anything to do with them..but only the mother. No. I’ve heard of some say that it’s okay to just be into the mother at first and not the child or children. As a single mom, I come as a package because my son is my everything to me. Any man who understands would have to respect it because you cannot expect to be in a relationship with the mother and have nothing to do with the child. I will admit, not a lot of men can deal with a situation like that and tend to fall off after a month or two.

It takes a special type of guy to go through life with a woman and her child(ren). Those are the types of people we need. I was thankfully raised by my stepfather who I have seen more as my biological dad, from the age of like 4 months until he passed when I was 14 years old. This was the only man that I knew as my father and he never treated me any differently than his own child. So, that’s the type of relationship I would want for my son…someone who is there from the beginning until the end of time, who will look at him and treat him as if we both made him together. No one has time to sit around and try to convince the bios, to be there when they don’t want to. Sometimes it takes a real man to step up and be there even when the child isn’t his.

 

Welp folks, that’s my rant for this wonderful Wednesday! I wanted to share some insight on what women as a mom, think of from time to time.

Ciaos!

~Sabrina

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Waiting for Adulthood before you become a Parent?

So you’re a mother or father of a young child.  For whatever reason, you feel the best thing for you to do at this point is to withdraw yourself from your child’s life.  This means, no attendance at birthday parties, no well-being calls and no “first-time” experiences for you.  And you’re perfectly okay with it, right?tumblr_inline_nrt4x2bQSR1ty8g8h_1280 (more…)

Single Parenting – I missed this class…

Let me just set this down right here for you to digest before you begin to past judgement:

I, along with anyone else out there who happens to be a “single parent,” did not plan this.  It was not one of those things where you go into a closet and pick out your destiny – especially not when you’re in a marriage, let alone a relationship with someone.

I am a single, divorced mother of a young boy.  No one told me that a day would come when I would feel so unprepared.

The importance of raising a child, a young boy, can be very detrimental for a woman to do on her own but it is not impossible.e30df7298b1db61328af72c4ce080c55

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