No, this was not a situation where both of my fathers were lovers nor was I an adopted child to two men who wanted one of their own. One father was the one who taught me how to bait my own fishing pole, drive a manual-shift car, fire a shotgun into an open country field and hold my own when it came to self-defense. My other father had shed the importance of being sure I selected the right man to be in a relationship with. The right man to father my future children with and most importantly, how not to settle for one who did not display the actions of a real man, even though he was born with a penis and testicles between his legs. To a woman continuing to blossom and grow into her own, both fathers instilled great gems that I would be able to carry on throughout the rest of my life. They were my versions of true love! (more…)
How can you love someone else or even expect others to love you if you don’t love yourself?
I remember at one point, telling someone you love them to the point you’d die for them was the thing. Those days have come and gone. If you love me that much, you can’t possibly love yourself. I may sound a little cold but hear me out.
As I was having lunch today, it came to me. So many people rather sit back and be content with the 40 hours of labor and paychecks full of deductions, instead of really going out there and claiming what truly belongs to them. Everyone has a dream but when you wake up, is it simply a captured vision you see unconsciously?
According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention:
For every woman who dies by suicide, four men die by suicide, but women are 3x more likely to attempt suicide.i
Americans attempt suicide an estimated 1 MILLION times annually iii
An American dies by suicide every 12.95 minutes i
In 2012, firearms were the most common method of death by suicide, accounting for 50.9% of all suicide deaths, followed by suffocation (including hangings) at 24.8% and poisoning at 16.7%
Over 40,000 Americans die by suicide every year.i Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States • 2nd leading cause of death for ages 10-24 • 5th leading cause of death for ages 45-59 • The suicide rate among American Indian/ Alaska Native adolescents and young adults ages 15-24 is 1.8 times the national average i
Do you know what that means? While you’re sitting in front of your computer for five minutes, stressing about something that could probably be resolved by a goodnight’s rest, twenty men decided the world and its’ contents were too much for them to handle and took their lives. This is a very serious matter and anything about it should not be taken lightly. You ma be friends with someone on Facebook and even though you barely speak to them, they could be reaching out to the world for help. The signs are not always evident but if you take a minute or two and just read the following, you could possibly save someone’s life before they call it quits.
Has this person been making references or has ever mentioned the idea of taking their life?
Have they been undergoing a great deal of depression?
Maybe you’ve checked their browser history and you notice they’ve been researching death, acts of committing suicide or even past suicides in the news?
Have they been acting as though nothing in the world matters to them anymore? Do they come off as if they are invincible?
Someone who was once a social and bubbly individual, has now become a loner and stays to themselves a majority of the time?
Do they seem angry all of the time and are very quick to lash out over the slightest pushback?
Thing that they once held dear to them, no longer matter?
Sometimes, when we are on the outside looking in, everything could seem like there’s nothing wrong in someone’s life. We all are guilty of that, simply because we tend to focus on what is going on within our own situations. Hell, even I am guilty of this. The message here is just to be more aware of what you see or hear. A weird text or online posting just might be their last cry for help.
If you or someone you know is suffering from depression, please reach out and talk to someone. You are loved and we’re all here to help. If you feel as though you cannot confide in someone you know personally, then reach out to the following resources:
If you are a veteran or the family member of a veteran, call 1-800-273-8255 and press 1 to speak with a trained crisis counselor. You may also chat online or text 838255.
Safety plans can help guide people through difficult moments and stay safe. Learn how to make your own. The My3 App can help you stay connected to people in your support network.
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Martin Luther King Jr. said it bestWho do we blame for the ignorance that goes on within today’s society? We were raised in times where being a certain complexion wasn’t the best thing, even though there was little option unless you were aborted or born into another race/ethnicity. So what do you do when you have no control over your own skin tone? Bleach yourself lighter? How about tanning? Shame yourself? What are the options? I have one. Embrace it. (more…)
The most important thing that should be taught to any young child is to recognize self-worth. A lot of times, we raise our children with thicker skin than what we had grown up. We try to do everything we can and give everything possible that was not available to our youth, when we were raised as little ones. “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never phase me,” was the saying that I grew up on – but how true was that statement and just how effective do you think it really was? To be accepted by society, people go through desperate measures to be recognized, not understanding that this recognition they seek may not come along with positive perceptions of them as an individual.