Lost in a World of Technology

We all have been guilty of this, some more than others, allowing technology and its fancy attention grabbing spectacles, to entertain our young children while we catered to either wok or our own desires. What ever happened to spending quality time with your loved ones, watching your kids grow up from toddlers to adolescents?


The Liar’s Den: Let’s Talk CHEATING

The event I attended on January 21, 2017 located at La Madeleine in Sandy Springs, Georgia, “The Liar’s Den: Let’s Chat,” was something much-needed not just for myself as a woman, but women in general in order to bridge together this invisible gap so commonly placed between us. This was set as a preview of the book, which would shed some light together as a group on questions we all at some point seemed to wonder when it came to men. No, this wasn’t a male’bashing event or a get-together to talk about their flaws, but rather gain some form of group therapy that could eventually help us within our own relationships whether as a partner or even with young sons.


Don’t believe the hype!

So you have haters


Okay so this may ruffle a few feathers but hey…why not?  I’ve seen it time and time again where people will go on to say the infamous “If you got haters, that means you’re doing something right.”  Uh..what if they don’t have anything else to do but find ways to start shit?  You can be doing nothing at all and still have haters.  So what exactly was it that you were doing right?  This is what always made me think, “who are your haters, exactly?”  And then, “why are you focusing or even giving someone who doesn’t like what you have to say, any of your energy?”

I sometimes believe people make that stuff up just for the likes and drama.  Have you ever noticed that?  The minute some shit pop off online, people go flocking over to that status with their comments.  I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again – people only support the drama and not any positive stuff going on or being said.  So I got something for that ass.  Starting tomorrow, I’m going to host my own “Tell’em Why You Mad Tuesdays!”  I will go in on the fckery and BS that has happened on this particular day and if you got something you want to throw in there, feel free to fill out this here form and submit!

I’ll be sure to keep it between you and me if that’s cool with you.  But for real, don’t give people who are not helping you grind and advance, none of your energy!  Let them drain it out of the next person but you’re too good for all of that.




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Networking 101: Meet Spin-A-Rella

Are you a small business, seeking growth?  Are you an entrepreneur and you’re just not sure what needs to be done in order to build and network?  Well, you’re not alone.  Sad to say, I’ve noticed more that when you are aspiring to become your own boss or really just put your foot forward towards that leap of faith, not too many people rock with you.  

These are the same ones on FB that rather flock and comment on some ratchet news, than support those who are trying to make a difference.  So if you have a small business, this is what I am going to do.  Simply fill out the form which will have the following questions below (you can find its’ link on the homepage to the right labeled “Market Me!”) and submit it.  Please: No Get Rich Quick Schemes or other Illegal Hustles!

Every week one entry will be selected and listed on my site as well as under my “Small Businesses” page.  All that I ask from you in return is to mention my site on your social media and like my page on FB.  That’s all.  In this world, the best thing you can give is the word of mouth.  Now…for my first listing! 


Love: Return To Sender

How can you love someone else or even expect others to love you if you don’t love yourself?

     I remember at one point, telling someone you love them to the point you’d die for them was the thing.  Those days have come and gone.  If you love me that much, you can’t possibly love yourself.  I may sound a little cold but hear me out.

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stop-domestic-violence-copy-940x513Defined by Merriam-Webster Dictionary:

“noun \ə-ˈbyüs\

Definition of ABUSE

1:  a corrupt practice or custom
2:  improper or excessive use or treatment :  misuse <drug abuse>
3  obsolete :  a deceitful act :  deception
4:  language that condemns or vilifies usually unjustly, intemperately, and angrily
5:  physical maltreatment”

So when do you say enough is enough?  At what point in life do you decide that being taken for granted has run its last lap and you are ready to reclaim ownership?  Abuse comes in many different ways.

“You’re pretty to be Dark Skin”…

     Martin Luther King Jr. said it best12088290_1513737615605318_263864202037763299_nWho do we blame for the ignorance that goes on within today’s society?  We were raised in times where being a certain complexion wasn’t the best thing, even though there was little option unless you were aborted or born into another race/ethnicity.  So what do you do when you have no control over your own skin tone?  Bleach yourself lighter?  How about tanning? Shame yourself?  What are the options?  I have one.  Embrace it.