self-value

Destroy Her

What defines you as a woman? Who is it that determines whether or not you are emotionally, mentally, spiritually or physically capable of doing? Are you as celebrated as you deserve? At what point in time, have you been thoroughly and sincerely thanked for just being outstanding at what you do? Where has life, as a woman, taken you?

Definition of woman

plural

women

play\ˈwi-mən\

  1. 1a :  an adult female personb :  a woman belonging to a particular category (as by birth, residence, membership, or occupation) —usually used in combination councilwoman

  2. 2:  womankind

  3. 3:  distinctively feminine nature :  womanliness

  4. 4:  a woman who is a servant or personal attendant

  5. 5a chiefly dialectal :  wifeb :  mistressc :  girlfriend 2

woman

adjective

womanless

play\ˈwu̇-mən-ləs, especially Southern ˈwō- or ˈwə-\ adjective

The above reference, defined by Merriam-Webster Dictionary, summarizes the meaning of the term “Woman,” but I think it falls short of a few. We are lovers to people who have no positive intention on loving us back without something in it for them.

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Give Yourself Alone Time

 

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I’ve been known to go on a vacation or two – but within the confinement of my own home. No fancy resort or splendid cruise. Just literally separating myself from the world of virtual reality, and cleansing myself from other unworldly behaviors including people. Sometimes, you have to remove yourself from the circles of those you may label family and friends, in order to reserve your true peace at mind. There are a few people in your circle now that I am sure you’ve been dealing with for quite some time, maybe years, and instead of chopping them off, you put up with their bullshit. And here’s the kicker:

EVEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHY!

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Love: Return To Sender

How can you love someone else or even expect others to love you if you don’t love yourself?

     I remember at one point, telling someone you love them to the point you’d die for them was the thing.  Those days have come and gone.  If you love me that much, you can’t possibly love yourself.  I may sound a little cold but hear me out.

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Cut The $h*t.

There’s always….1.

Have you ever had someone in your life who, regardless of how good of a man or woman you are, you were just never good enough for them to “lock down,” but just right for them to lay with?  Whenever you did go out in public together, it was never somewhere local when you would run into friends of theirs or even yours.  Everything was always so “low-key,” but they made it their business to pop-up anytime another took an interest in you.  Any other time when they would see you out, they kept it cordial, however when a man or woman stood within your personal space, they made it their business to intervene?
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Abuse.

stop-domestic-violence-copy-940x513Defined by Merriam-Webster Dictionary:

“noun \ə-ˈbyüs\

Definition of ABUSE

1:  a corrupt practice or custom
2:  improper or excessive use or treatment :  misuse <drug abuse>
3  obsolete :  a deceitful act :  deception
4:  language that condemns or vilifies usually unjustly, intemperately, and angrily
5:  physical maltreatment”

So when do you say enough is enough?  At what point in life do you decide that being taken for granted has run its last lap and you are ready to reclaim ownership?  Abuse comes in many different ways.
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BYOB! Be Your Own Boss

20151128_145809.jpgAs I was having lunch today, it came to me.  So many people rather sit back and be content with the 40 hours of labor and paychecks full of deductions, instead of really going out there and claiming what truly belongs to them.  Everyone has a dream but when you wake up, is it simply a captured vision you see unconsciously?

WAKE UP!

Be.

Your.

Own.

Boss.

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Knowing Yourself=Valuing Yourself

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The most important thing that should be taught to any young child is to recognize self-worth.  A lot of times, we raise our children with thicker skin than what we had grown up.  We try to do everything we can and give everything possible that was not available to our youth, when we were raised as little ones.  “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never phase me,” was the saying that I grew up on – but how true was that statement and just how effective do you think it really was?  To be accepted by society, people go through desperate measures to be recognized, not understanding that this recognition they seek may not come along with positive perceptions of them as an individual.

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