Life

Destroy Her

What defines you as a woman? Who is it that determines whether or not you are emotionally, mentally, spiritually or physically capable of doing? Are you as celebrated as you deserve? At what point in time, have you been thoroughly and sincerely thanked for just being outstanding at what you do? Where has life, as a woman, taken you?

Definition of woman

plural

women

play\ˈwi-mən\

  1. 1a :  an adult female personb :  a woman belonging to a particular category (as by birth, residence, membership, or occupation) —usually used in combination councilwoman

  2. 2:  womankind

  3. 3:  distinctively feminine nature :  womanliness

  4. 4:  a woman who is a servant or personal attendant

  5. 5a chiefly dialectal :  wifeb :  mistressc :  girlfriend 2

woman

adjective

womanless

play\ˈwu̇-mən-ləs, especially Southern ˈwō- or ˈwə-\ adjective

The above reference, defined by Merriam-Webster Dictionary, summarizes the meaning of the term “Woman,” but I think it falls short of a few. We are lovers to people who have no positive intention on loving us back without something in it for them.

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Lost in a World of Technology

We all have been guilty of this, some more than others, allowing technology and its fancy attention grabbing spectacles, to entertain our young children while we catered to either wok or our own desires. What ever happened to spending quality time with your loved ones, watching your kids grow up from toddlers to adolescents?

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Push Past Fear

 

Have you ever put something off for so long that after a while, you’ve convinced yourself that it wasn’t meant to be? Even though you never quite gave it a fair shot or actually placed your all into it, you’ve already counted yourself out. A lot of times, we find ourselves throwing away broken eggs before we purchase the dozen and not quite understanding what causes this behavior, the only thing that I could really think of would be due to fear.
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Give Yourself Alone Time

 

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I’ve been known to go on a vacation or two – but within the confinement of my own home. No fancy resort or splendid cruise. Just literally separating myself from the world of virtual reality, and cleansing myself from other unworldly behaviors including people. Sometimes, you have to remove yourself from the circles of those you may label family and friends, in order to reserve your true peace at mind. There are a few people in your circle now that I am sure you’ve been dealing with for quite some time, maybe years, and instead of chopping them off, you put up with their bullshit. And here’s the kicker:

EVEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHY!

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The Liar’s Den: Let’s Talk CHEATING

The event I attended on January 21, 2017 located at La Madeleine in Sandy Springs, Georgia, “The Liar’s Den: Let’s Chat,” was something much-needed not just for myself as a woman, but women in general in order to bridge together this invisible gap so commonly placed between us. This was set as a preview of the book, which would shed some light together as a group on questions we all at some point seemed to wonder when it came to men. No, this wasn’t a male’bashing event or a get-together to talk about their flaws, but rather gain some form of group therapy that could eventually help us within our own relationships whether as a partner or even with young sons.

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Caleb Minter: Young Heart, Old Soul

ATLANTA has been known as a transplant host for such amazing talent around the world. You have many well-known artists such as André 3000, Monica and T.I. who are originally from the peach state and then those such as the late Whitney Houston, India Arie and Ciara, all whom have become very successful over a course of hard work and determination after relocating to Georgia. So it’s not unusual to come across artists such as Caleb Minter along with others who performed this evening, just to name a few: Broadway Miller (@BroadwayMiller), Rolynne Anderson (@Rolynnethefirst), Chanel Teaboù (@ChanelTeabou) and J. Morris (@JustMorris). If you find yourself in downtown Atlanta on a third Wednesday of each month, make sure you swing on by Studio No.7 and check out Milk & Sizz’s Sound Board and support your musicians.

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Who are we to judge?

Yes, this is for you! People find ways to judge others and I will admit that at times, I found myself passing judgement but I quickly check myself because when I look down at my hands, they’re not clean.

Everyone has made a decision or even several of them within their lifetime and whatever the consequences have been, they had to go through it. But who are we to judge them for what they do? We are not the ones who may suffer or reap the benefits so why does it matter to us personally? You see it all the time and the sad part about it is that there have been moments where passing judgement has lead to deaths. You see someone dressed fly from head to toe and decked out in jewels, get robbed because someone thought from what they saw, the person had that type of money. Only to find out that the jewels were fake and the clothes were hand-me-downs but now, someone’s child is no longer here. We need to do better. There are bigger problems out in the sea and what someone has going on in their lives should be the least of our concerns.

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Ciaos!

~Sabrina

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Mixing Friends is like Oil & Water

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     So as I was exchanging comments on a post that I read over at Writings Of A Single Girl about a set of her friends, it dawned on me. Isn’t it weird how you can be friends for over 14 years with a person and know them like the back of your hand. They’re like your missing sister or brother that you’ve never had.

     And then as you relocate to different states (or just areas), you end up meeting someone else who your heart just bonds with. They too become one of your “back of the milk carton” siblings and you would go out of your way to make sure that they’re good. You’ve got their back no matter what. This person ends up being your friend for about 5-6 years.

And then it happens…

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How To Guide: #DatingAtlanta

Good Evening!  So recently I dismantled a long distance relationship with a young gentleman who will remain nameless.  It was not what I pictured and with hiccups when it came to honesty, I decided it was best for me to bring in the new year with a clean slate.  The title of this entry is called “How To Guide: #DatingAtlanta,” in which the reason behind it clearly speaks exactly what you see.  Atlanta is known to be flooded with women and with its ratio being so high (According to AJC.com, there are 80k more women than there are men), this is going to be quite an adventure ahead of us.

This evening, I have decided to bring you along with me as I begin a journey into the world of online dating.  A lot of you have heard of it and I am sure enough of you have experienced it.  Online dating can be fun and easy going at times and then a big turn-off and brutally overwhelming during others.  This will be the first time, however, that I post my dating quarrels online for others to view, so your interaction is going to play a big role.  

I will not inform any of these men who I meet on the site, about my journey in blogging it as I do not believe their reactions will be as genuine.  Those who I could really give a damn less about, I will inform.  I will also consult with a male friend of mine who will help me out along the way when it comes to digesting/translating the responses (from a male’s perspective)…we’ll call him “John”

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Mr. Ass Licker

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A Tenderoni in a room full of Retired Men!

     So after I had my meeting with my business partner Jae, I decided to visit this lounge I typically go to on Saturdays.  Already being in the area, I figured why not, seeing how I had nothing else on my agenda plus it had been about a month since I last went.  I remember my hair stylist informing me that on Fridays, there was an open buffet with shrimp, crab legs, etc.  Even though I had no intention of eating from the buffet, I thought it would be convenient to just go and see what it was all about. (more…)