So as I was exchanging comments on a post that I read over at Writings Of A Single Girl about a set of her friends, it dawned on me. Isn’t it weird how you can be friends for over 14 years with a person and know them like the back of your hand. They’re like your missing sister or brother that you’ve never had.
And then as you relocate to different states (or just areas), you end up meeting someone else who your heart just bonds with. They too become one of your “back of the milk carton” siblings and you would go out of your way to make sure that they’re good. You’ve got their back no matter what. This person ends up being your friend for about 5-6 years.
And then it happens…
You concot this idea after thinking hard, how close you are to all of your friends, that it would be good to bring everyone together. Yes! You get along with your childhood friend and your new sister/brotherly friend….it just all makes sense where if everyone could love you, they should be able to love one another. Right?
I will state this. If you truly know your friends, then you will know from their initial encounter, what may or may not go wrong. You may have one friend who is very outspoken (which is why the two of you have gotten along so far) and then one who is more conservative (who attracts the energy of their opposite, which is you). You also could have that ride-or-die friend who will never let something happen to you if they can help it (which is also a characteristic that the both of you share).
So when you stand back and analyze the entire picture, it all makes sense to you….BUT, not to everyone else! Just because it works for you, does not mean other personalities will mesh together for them.
So when you stand back and analyze the entire picture, it all makes sense to you….BUT, not to everyone else! Just because it works for you, does not mean other personalities will mesh together for them. What I’ve learned is…its okay to have your friends separate from the others. Everyone does not need to come together in a kumbaya moment and hold hands as we pray.
Once you’ve realized that your select group of friends are better off just being with you, then cool. Don’t rush it or force something that may not be designed, to work. They are special to you and only you.
Value it and adore the time that you share with one another because, at the end of the day good friendships are difficult to find but those that are life-lasting are the hardest!