Friday night was one that I definitely did not expect. First off, I don’t know if it was because of my new haircut or what, but there seemed to be more lesbians in the crowd than last week. With that being said, unfortunately, I did not find it in my best interest to use the line, “I’m a lesbian,” shoo off men. And of course, some took advantage of this as I felt like I had been captive by low-quality men. The main one was this man of Nigerian descent. I was standing at the bar talking to my favorite bartender when this guy came up to my left. I had already downed my first long island iced tea and found entertainment in flipping through Pinterest photos. John and I were also texting during this period.
“You know, this is why I think cell phones were a bad invention,” he said to me.
WTF was he talking about?
“Why is that?” I fell into his conversation trap.
“Because people do not talk anymore when they’re out,” he replied. I decided to share with him, the psychological facts that I had been reading on.
“Oh, interesting,” he stated as he looked on. We’re friends now, I guess was what he was thinking. Either that or he felt like he got that foot into the door and would now be able to slip short talks with me. I still had no interest in talking to him but he didn’t know it. So the only thing that I could do was look at my bartender with the “help me” eyes as she laughed. “I’m sorry boo!!” she yelled across the room as she moved faster than a speeding bullet.
When this guy would laugh, it would sound hideous. He did it even when shit wasn’t funny. After a while, he got tired of my lack of responding to his foolishness and moved on to the next chick (thank goodness). About another Long Island Iced Tea later, I met another gentleman who informed me that he had relocated to GA from Cali approximately 3-4 weeks ago and that he didn’t think he would be staying long. Now, I could understand where he was coming from because relocating to GA from California, I would like to believe is a big jump. He had not been out much from what I learned after talking to him the whole evening, but he was open to going out more. I would dance on him randomly and then we would sit and talk a bit more about one another. He had the perfect smile I had ever laid eyes on. He was about 6’1ft tall with slightly longer shoulder length
Now, I could understand where he was coming from because relocating to GA from California, I would like to believe is a big jump. He had not been out much from what I learned after talking to him the whole evening, but he was open to going out more. I would dance on him randomly and then we would sit and talk a bit more about one another. He had the perfect smile I had ever laid eyes on. He was about 6’1ft tall with slightly longer shoulder length locs, perfectly groomed. Even his accent was a turn on. I continued to enjoy the night and once the party was over, it was time for me to go home.
He had mentioned to me within our small talk, that he was entertaining some type of relationship with his best friend back at home but that he also had needs (not too sure what that meant). I decided to save it for a later discussion the following day when we both were soberer than tonight. We exchanged phone numbers (he even took a selfie using my phone of himself for the caller ID photo) and drove home. The following day, we ended up texting one another in which I decided to get more insight from him regarding his martial status.
I asked if he was single in which he informed me that he was in a relationship with his best friend and I learned (from that confirmation) that his heart was with her back at home. He actually was in a long distance relationship with her and that my friends was a no-go. It was as if, all of the excitement that I had, was flushed down the drain when he told me that. I don’t care how you put it if someone has your heart, then there’s no need for me to entertain you because it’s not going anywhere and guess what? I don’t like wasting my time on what if’s and possibly’s.
So on the following day, Sunday, I decided to cut my ties with him. There was no need to continue communicating. I was better off going my way and the same for him. It sucked because he was a really cool dude but we all knows how things like that turnout.
Welp, as always, I will continue to post about my dating life and just the experiences that I go through in my off seasons.