Waiting for Adulthood before you become a Parent?

So you’re a mother or father of a young child.  For whatever reason, you feel the best thing for you to do at this point is to withdraw yourself from your child’s life.  This means, no attendance at birthday parties, no well-being calls and no “first-time” experiences for you.  And you’re perfectly okay with it, right?tumblr_inline_nrt4x2bQSR1ty8g8h_1280

Don’t get me wrong.  I understand that there will be times when trying to be that involved parent will not be as easy as said.  You do have some mothers and fathers who use the child as a trading source, preventing them from being as active as they desire.  This message isn’t for you all.  My advice would be to keep trying because your child is worth it.  Oh no..this message my dear friends, goes out to those parents who feel that they will just neglect to be a parent overall and wait until the child becomes an adult and “seeks them out.”  Boy aren’t you in for a wide-awakening!  Hear me out now…

When two people come together and have sex, there’s a 50/50 chance that the woman could possibly be impregnated.  If there’s protection, that percentage would be much lower but if there is no protection involved, then, of course, your chances are greater.  This is a decision that typically is decided by one of the two involved.  As a woman, it is my choice on whether I want my partner to use protection but he is the one who will or will not wear the condom.  The point that I am trying to make right now is that, ultimately, bringing a child into this world is something usually mutually decided on.  Now, if the condom breaks or your situation is something forced, then you are part of another group.

This post is for those who were once in love or strong like and both parties went half on a baby.  Everything is good to go at first BUT the minute shit hits the fan, someone decides to part from this permanent bond and do their own thing.  Now, visitation and arrangements need to be made and financial obligations are set up.  But what happens when you have one of those parents who feel it is best that they just wait until their child becomes an adult and seeks a relationship with the absent parent?  Now you have a child who is suffering from your selfishness while you live life like nothing matters.  Please listen.  Your child(ren) may not come looking for that motherly/fatherly bond you have all figured out when they get older.  If anything, they may resent you even more and if their primary parent happens to get into another lasting relationship, you better believe that the involvement of this individual will stick with them for the rest of their life.


If you are a parent who feels as though you’re doing your child a better service by staying out of the picture, think again.  Sometimes, there is nothing better than having both of your biological parents there than just one.  The mother is there to provide the emotional love while the father provides the love and discipline.  If you know that you’re not shit, then please, keep your sex organs to yourself.  There are too many children out here messed up in broken homes and the last thing we need is another to repeat the cycle.


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